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He’s just not that into you – Review


He's just not that into you
Title: He’s just not that into you
Director: Ken Kwapis
Main actors: Ginnifer Goodwin, Justin Long, Jennifer Aniston
Distributed by: 01 Distribution
Year: 2009
Running time: 2h09m
Genre: romantic comedy
Rating: 3/5



He’s just not that into you is a 2009 movie that, in the banality of its plot, brings to light a very common “problem” in female society: why don’t men behave as they should?

The main character of the movie is Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin), a very naive girl who looks for her prince charming but who is constantly disappointed by her dates. Although men spend nice time with her and say they’ll call her, they’ll never do. In her heart she always tries to justify them, sometimes taking upon herself faults that are not hers. But one day, instead of waiting for Connor (Kevin Connolly) to phone her, she takes the situation in hand and goes to look for him in his bar. Here she meets Connor (Kevin Connolly)‘s best friend, Alex (Justin Long) who, taking her situation at heart, explains her the whole truth about men.

If he wants you, he looks for you, and if he doesn’t look for you… then it means he doesn’t want you!

He's just not that into you
Alex (Justin Long) and Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin)

In addition, Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) represents the generation that was taught as a child that if a child treats you badly then it means he likes you. That, unfortunately, is a conception carried out over time by a patriarchal society but that no longer adapts to the rediscovered feminist environment. If I had to explain to my daughter why a friend at school mistreated her I would surely answer that he is an idiot and to pay him back with the same coin.
Obviously, the film does not address issues such as the violence against the women and it held, fortunately, his thematics strictly on a more superficial level.

The movie is set in an age in which relationships no longer seem to be a serious thing but only a game in which we chase desperately in order not to be alone. It takes up the vein of Sex and the city, in fact, not surprisingly, it is inspired by the book of the same name written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, former scriptwriters of the series.

The book

He's just not that into youI had the “luck” to read the book that inspired this film and my opinions towards it are mixed. At first, I decided to read it because I thought it was the story of the movie, then I discovered that it was a self-help book. I have nothing against this kind of books, on the contrary, I think that sometimes they can be useful for people in need. However, sometimes they take themselves too seriously and make of all the grass a bundle.

In general, the book is a long collection of examples of male behaviours that should act as a buzzer for women. Some of them are granted (if a man stays with you just because you support him, it is obvious that he doesn’t care about you). Others are absurd (examples of women falling into the vortex of drugs out of love). Still, others take up the classic stereotype of the Wendy syndrome.
It seems to me that in this volume neither men’s feelings nor women’s intelligence are taken into consideration. And this is something that makes me angry because not everyone is the same. Everyone has their own experience, their own way of doing things and their own reasons. Moreover, it seems that relationships are only a competition for who is smarter and knows more weaknesses about the other sex. For me, instead, things should be carried out spontaneously, whether positive or negative is the outcome.

Surely the book is much more sympathetic and well written than those of John Gray, sexists and badly written, but I don’t find the authors’ theories entirely acceptable. The volume can be read in two hours and can also be considered a pleasant read if you don’t take it too seriously.

The other characters are all couples who have their problems and show different sides of the same coin. The beauty, however, is that they grow, mature and understand that to be happy and have their own happy ending there is no need to be loved but to love yourself.

Janine (Jennifer Connelly) has been married to Ben (Bradley Cooper) for many years but their pair is mismatched. Among her insecurities and fixations and his feeling of being in a cage, they face a series of betrayals, reconciliations and new beginnings. I did not particularly appreciate the acting of these two actors and I find that Bradley Cooper was still very immature. I much prefer it in the recent movie A star is born.

He's just not that into you
Neil (Ben Affleck)

Beth (Jennifer Aniston) lives with Neil (Ben Affleck) but doesn’t feel happy because he doesn’t want to marry her. At the umpteenth refusal of the man, she decides to leave him. Then, finding herself in a moment of difficulty, she realizes how much more he was a husband to her than the spouses of her sisters who, despite having a piece of paper, do not support them. Despite Ben Affleck‘s mono-expressions, I like how his character was painted. And in particular, his change when he realizes that to be happy himself he must make the person next to him happy.

The dialogues between the characters are credible, indeed many things that are said could also be part of a real conversation between two lovers. The soundtrack, however, if it was present I did not notice. There was actually no characteristic song that I could associate with the film to this day.

The strength of this film is to face very common themes in today’s society in which many girls can find themselves (because let’s face it, it is not such an extraordinary or original artistic movie) but its one weakness is the ending. In fact, in order to respect the cliché of the positive conclusion of the romantic comedy, everything that is taught during the course of the movie is subverted, confirming my theory that it is not possible to generalize and make all the grass a bundle.

Or perhaps the happy ending is this: to know that despite the phone calls not received and the broken heart, despite all the foolishness and the badly interpreted signals, despite the crying and the embarrassments, you have never ever lost hope.

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